Made a mistake? Good choice? Who knows

Well, not a very open person when it comes to personal issues but seems like I have no where to go currently. Well today I broke up with my gf of 3.5 years and prob the hardest things I have done so far in my young, 22 yrs old, life. Not that I didnt love her but knew in the long run things were not going to work out for the best for both of us and wanted to end it now and not later. Well not going to get into details but all I can think of is did I do the right thing, boy did I mess up, I dont know. I am not one of those people who just go out to the bar and drink, pretty quit person who keeps to himself, gf lived 3 hrs away so didn't really do much when I was not with her. So I yeah, new life has started I guess, something I got comfortable with in the past 3.5 years is no longer the normal, and knew her all through college, and as I enter my last semester just seems very empty. Oh well, I guess things will work out for the best...anyways enough rambling on.

 

That sucks but being single comes with a lot of pros!
You're still young, don't need any strings attached. That's how I'm living right now

 

Yeah I know that but it is just not my personality being who goes out every week and parties. Never really was me, lot of the pros dont really apply, ha...guess just take it day at a time. Back to cleaning up my detailing supplies and organizing them.

 

enjoy being single. theres pros and cons to being with someone. not going to lie i love the fact that i have a loving girlfriend who i can always turn to and do things with, but we're young. enjoy life to the fullest and dont keep thinking about the past. I know its hard because I cant even see myself being without my gf (been together almost 2 years) but in life there are drastic unexpected changes and sometimes they are really for the better.

 

I just broke up with my gf of a year and a half and I can completely relate to you. I always go back and forth wondering if I made the right decision and if I did things right. For awhile, I thought she was going to be the one for me. Just be really strong man, you made the decision for a reason and you cannot hide true feelings. Time heals all and good people around for support makes the process much easier to cope with. Just to put it into perspective, I have been apart from her for 3 months and told myself I would never find someone as good as her but I went out on a date last night with an awesome girl and I can't tell you how liberating it was and how much i enjoyed myself and how much I look forward to the potential I might have. Look for new experiences and don't look at the past with regret, your feelings are your feelings and you cannot hide them because in the long term its your happiness you have to look out for.

 

Thanks, pretty much just trying to go forward and not think about it. Sucks is it is exam week, last weeks of exams actually, and no one is really around..haha..got the crap exam at the end of the week . Oh well, the sun will still come up and the world will still turn.

 

I was definitely in your shoes about 6 months ago. Only thing my gf of 3.5 years ended it with me the night before my last final. Ended up failing but lucky thing i was doing good enough in the class to still pass. It was definitely a rough summer trying to get over things. Good thing for friends to hang out with though and take your mind off things, thats the best thing to do right now and not just sit in your room and wonder if it was the right thing to do. Look on the bright side though, at least you have a semester to look for another fish in the sea, I'm now stuck in a cubicle working with a bunch of guys hahaha.

 

sorry to hear that ... just hang out with some frens ... you should be fine then ... You need time to get off the past ... anyway, its easy to say that We are living to look forward however, its not easy in reality ...

 

Night before your last final, holy shit thats harsh.:shakehead:

 

Don't worry about it. If it's one thing I learned is to become independent, and do what you want. I'm not going to get into this life's too short or whatever nonsense, cause I don't know how long or short it is. Who the hell cares. Just do your thing.

 

Just let it go...hang in there!

 

Funny i'm about in the same position you are. We were about 4 years in, and 8-9 hours apart. Relationship had not been going nearly as well since she moved. I'm probably not handling it very well, but hey, we've all got to move forward. I'm only 21, so she was quite significant in my life as well. It's tough to not think about it for sure. For me, I'm just further indulging in my hobbies for now. I'll be seeing my friends in about a week. I am probably just as lost as you are, and I don't even know what to suggest. Just hang in there, man.

 

Thanks for the kind words everyone.

 

That you were even considering doing so is surely a signal that the relationship was failing in some way or another. Had you two not broken up now, it's my opinion that you probably would have broken up somewhere down the road anyway. At least it didn't get as far as you two getting out of school and getting married, which would have made a delicate situation that much more difficult.

 

When I was your age my gf of 4 years split up with me. Surround yourself with friends and keep busy. I think its one of the hardest times in your life because its your first love and that makes it very hard. Just do your thing. Life has so much to offer that is nowhere near as complicated as a relationship so enjoy the simple things for awhile. I can say this because I am A LOT older than you guys (except for Richy and towgt) but life goes on. Its not the end of the world. It only seems like it is. Why don't you go out and get yourself something nice. Like a FLEX! LOL

 

haha, Ken...I guess when you are young your first love is everything. I was cleaning my car today and was just thinking maybe it can work out in the end, idk...pretty much it is a Romeo and Juliet story...and about getting myself something nice well...cant do that now but I dont deny a Flex for xmas haha

 

My gf and I lived in the same building so I got to watch her leave with her new bf everyday. That was nice.

 

Not an easy time, i think most of us have been in a similar situation. Knowing what i know now, i've learned to accept things better than when i was young. I feel fortunate to live in the USA, have food, car, etc. Surround yourself with good people and let time heal your wounds. The answer comes from within you.

 

So what you are saying is you come from warring families and you are forbidden to see each other?

You do know how that story ends, don't you?

 

hence the break up!