Guys, I would usually never post anything like this on a forum but I am in a delima. I met this really really nice girl, hard working, beautiful but she has a difficult past. She informs me that she was raped when she was 17 and has a child from it and was married to a different man in the past but is now divorced. Now, I dont come with any baggage as I was never married and dont have any children of my own. I want to know your opinion as adults and friends here on the forum as to if it is worth proceeding with something like this or I am better off cutting off my losses and running? I am looking for some decent advise as this is something new to me and I dont have very much experience dating. So kindly give me some mature advise and not something like " I would tap that and run" I am seriously considering a second date with this girl but I am not sure if I have what it takes to handle her past.
In my experience, if you are already doubting yourself and this girl and her past, that's a red flag, and it's only been one date. Trust your gut instinct, always. If you are still unsure, give it a few dates and see how it progresses, but if your red flags are still there, I would leave.
Tap and run.... Jk.. . No she already has been dealt a shotty hand. Go on a few dates, take it slow if dates go well why not continue? Your instincts could be spot on, also could be nerves knowing her past. She must get a bit of credit for being up front and truthful to you. Hard working and nice are good attributes.
My best friends girlfriend went through the same thing and they have been together now for 4 years and are getting married. You have to ask you self are you man enough to deal with what she went through. If you really like that much then stick it out and see where it goes. But if you can't handle with what she went through with then don't lead her on and then dump her. I have been married 20 years and still very happy
My opinion: proceed with caution. As sweet, attractive and hard working as the girl might be, you're 17-years old. A relationship at that age should not involve an ex-husband and a child. That is a lot of deal with right off the bat. If you do go on a second date, let her know your position and don't lead her on. It's probably extremely difficult for her to talk about this and finding a man who would be willing to enter a relationship with a girl like that really needs to be ready to take something like that on. It's no small potatoes.
I agree with you guys. Thats why I am trying to guage some public opinion. and No I am not 17, I am 27. Its not that I am having second thoughts its that I have never dealt with this situation before and I have only dated once before this thats why I am a little on the edge.
